Most young people, having crossed a certain threshold of time, think about the fact that it is time to find their companion or life partner. And then doubts, problems, misunderstandings begin. quickly gets acquainted and gets married or gets married, but in most cases everything is not arranged at once. It seems that you get acquainted and meet, but it does not add up. Or no one “meets” at all. And friends, and the Internet, and at work, and at events like you go, but everything does not work out. And time goes by… And you can’t figure out how to find your soulmate.

  1. First of all, in this case, everything falls on external circumstances, on the fact that God for some reason does not give family happiness… But is it true? What prevents you from finding a person who will become your spouse? Of course, everyone wants to start a family . And without experiencing what can be called love, not though, as it seems to them, to give up this, and go according to the calculation, whatever for whom, they are waiting for their moment. But what they are waiting for, hardly anyone knows. Unfortunately, this is not a true love marriage. True love comes over the years, it is born and grows stronger after the creation of a family, tested by joint problems, sorrows,care. Love does not flare up, it is like a small flame flaring up in the soul of a person. And only after several years spent together, this ember begins to smolder in the heart, which means it is simply not possible to achieve this when you just met a person.
  2. The second obstacle in choosing a life partner is our own selfishness. We draw it in our imagination and do not want to deviate one iota from this artificially created image. The same selfishness leads many to a feeling called falling in love. At the same time, falling in love is motivated by purely external indicators, such as a beautiful figure, a beautiful voice, impressiveness, certain creative abilities of a person. We fall in love with these qualities, but we don’t realize two fairly obvious things. A slim figure can change with age, and not only in a woman who loses it at the first birth, and this reason is often the main one, that women do not want to give birth, it also changes with normal and age-related changes in both women and men. A young voice can grow rougher with age, and its musicality can disappear with any circumstances, such as the common cold, which caused the development of a throat disease such as tonsillitis or pharyngitis. We want to get the best, despite the fact that the person we choose for ourselves and try to achieve, does not respond to the surprise of reciprocation, although we, as it seems to us, have certain “irresistible” qualities. And if we get an answer, then when the objects of love lose their primary appearance, we leave them without having a solid basis in this frivolous feeling.
  3. Unfortunately, many people do not understand that premarital relationships, they permanently deprive themselves of a normal family life. The justification is that you must first try, and then create a family, and then “suddenly we will not fit”, deprives a person of confidence in the stability of the family. In addition, after changing one, another, or a third, a person compares the new with the previous one each time, and according to popular wisdom, everything turns out to be worse than the old one. And all this is only because a person loses the purity of both the physical and spiritual perception of a person, ignites a passion in himself and this passion darkens both the mind and the soul and the body. And naive is the one who says that he can refrain and overcome the inflamed passion, and when he realizes that he was wrong, he makes a huge effort to correct it. And in this struggle with himself, he can not give happiness to anyone who is near. In addition, all these tests give rise to suspicion in the mind of his companion, and whether he did the same, and cause him to respond. And can we talk about a normal family in such conditions…
  4. When creating a family, you should immediately put it on your heart that its main goal is the birth of children. It is not the birth of children that is the key point, but rather that the marriage is created for the purpose of having a child. The difference in these provisions is that the intimate proximity of the spouses should not be limited to the connection for the purpose of conception, but to be the moment of manifestation of love for each other, as a result of which a fetus can appear , a beloved child even before its conception. Often, young people create a family with the fact that first of all it is necessary to live for each other, have fun and only when they are ready to give birth to a child. This very often leads to the fact that abandoned children appear, and most often they resort to killing the new life sent by God. In such cases, people do not even realize that they are becoming not only murderers of their own children, but also God-fighters, since using contraceptives, resorting to abortions, as it were, they remove God from their lives, reject His will for the emergence of a new person, the birth of a living soul, and consider themselves as creators and the only ones who have the right to give birth to a child. And you should probably think about why none of the animals do not kill their cubs, except perhaps the rabbit, which if it does not immediately take away the rabbits, can simply devour them. And, another person…
    You can talk a lot about mistakes. And now, how to still find your soul mate — the only one and for life. Of course, the companion or companion of life should be chosen in a single faith. Otherwise, how can you create your own small church? In fact, it is not true that God does not allow it to be found. It’s just that we often don’t see something close to us. And the first thing to do is, of course, to pray for the gift of a spouse. Pray hard and with the knowledge that you accept the will of God for yourself. And when you make a request to God for the gift of a life partner, you yourself believe in yourself what will allow you to see him (her) and find him (her). When communicating with people, you need to carefully look at who you meet in life, with whom you can easily communicate, who just likes you without cheating and responds to you in return. It is especially good to look closely in this regard in general care, pilgrimage trips. There should be common interests, but not the same character. This error is ubiquitous and is called dissimilarity of characters in divorce, but people should not have the same character, they just need to complement each other. So, gradually getting acquainted, meeting, two people begin to feel mutual affection, to like each other more. However, before making a decision about starting a family, you need to be sure that this is the will of God. The advice of the confessor helps us a lot in this. It is especially good when the confessor knows both the bride and groom, but even in other cases it helps a lot to create a strong true Orthodox family. You can certainly talk, but what can a confessor say if we like each other. The confessor knows the inclinations of a person, without emotions can determine the similarity of two people to create a family, and in addition, according to your faith, you will be given advice and God’s blessing. And of course, the parental blessing for the creation of a family.