Why do you need to flirt?
This social game between a man and a woman is as old as the world. The attitude towards her has always been ambiguous – flirting girls were sometimes accused of frivolity and contemptuously called coquettes. And in the 20s of the last century, an anti-flirting club was even created in America. This society had its own rules. Among them were the following: “Do not flirt – those who flirt hastily often repent later”; “Do not make eyes, they were made for more worthy purposes”; ” Do not walk with strange men. They may be married, and then you will have to take part in a hair-pulling match.” But psychologists believe that flirting is good for your health! Let’s see, flirting is still good or bad.
Today, hardly anyone will condemn a free girl who flirts with a nice young man. But for those who have tied the knot or are simply in a relationship, flirting is forbidden. Is this fair?
Psychologists believe that not quite. Flirting is not necessarily a harbinger of infidelity. On the contrary, lovers of flirting are less likely to cheat on their “halves”. Flirting does not mean that a person is unhappy in a family relationship. It can be a harmless game that doesn’t involve a sequel. How is it useful? First, it increases self-esteem. This is especially important for women: we like to listen to compliments and make sure that we are attractive. Secondly, it increases the level of endorphins in the blood, raises the mood and promotes a sense of happiness. In addition, flirting is an intellectual game, with which we hone our sense of humor and social skills.
Men are less likely to like flirting for the sake of flirting. However, it all depends on the person. Some representatives of the stronger sexual like to make exquisite compliments to girls, and they themselves are happy to accept “social stroking”from them. But this does not mean that such men are potential traitors. On the contrary, they can be faithful husbands. And, most importantly, throughout their lives, they will flirt with their own wife and say nice things to her. Isn’t that wonderful?
The attitude to flirting can be determined by cultural traditions. For example, in Italy and Spain, men often pay compliments to completely unknown girls, and may even shout and whistle after them. In general, from our point of view, they behave completely indecently. On the other hand, girls from these countries, getting into the company of our reserved northern men, begin to feel uncomfortable – because no one gives them signs of attention.
There is a funny definition of flirting: “When a girl does not know what she wants, but in every possible way achieves it.” The statement, of course, is controversial, but it confirms: we sometimes need flirting for the sake of flirting, without any far-reaching goals.
How do you feel about flirting? Do you think it’s acceptable for family people to flirt with others?
By the way.
Speaking of flirting, you can’t help but wonder what men like about women’s appearance. Everything, of course, is individual, but, according to polls, many call among the favorites big eyes, plump lips and a clear, fresh look. Such an image can be created with makeup tools.