Why do men lie and will lie?
When it comes to the art of lying, everyone immediately thinks of women. But if you remember those who lie the most-men come to mind.
What is this stereotype and is it based on something more than prejudice?
Why men lie.
Each of us has our own reasons for lying. It all depends on the situation, the circumstances, and even the liar’s worldview.
The guy lies to make himself look better than he really is. He can embellish his financial situation or his position.
By inventing a story about his cool car, a man will quickly arouse the interest of the opposite sex.
But such tales are told not only for the impression of a girl, but also for a perfectly acceptable purpose. Lying, the guy becomes more confident in his own abilities, and therefore stops stuttering and nervous during the conversation.
There are liars among both sexes, but it is much more important for men to feel confident in themselves, which is why they have acquired the fame of deceivers.
There are a lot of reasons why guys lie. Most often, they want to improve the situation and achieve a certain goal with the help of dishonest methods…
The guy will lie about a meeting at work, without telling his girlfriend that he actually spent the evening with friends, watched football and drank beer.
The reason for lying is simple-unwillingness to quarrel or feel guilty, because he is well aware that he did not do well. Men often think that lying is the lesser of all evils. They don’t understand that lies are always worse than the truth.
How do you know that a man is lying?
How do you know that a man is lying? Take advantage of what psychology and psychophysiology have given us. These sciences study the physical reactions of the human body.
Lying requires mental and emotional effort, which is why it becomes much easier to understand that he is lying, thanks to the following reactions of the body:
The guy doesn’t make eye contact. His gaze runs around the surrounding space, but does not stop at the interlocutor. The liar sweats. During a conversation, a man has perspiration on his forehead, temples and over his upper lip, even if he is in a cool room or outside. His breathing quickens. The interlocutor breathes as if he ran a marathon before the conversation. There are pauses in the conversation. Lies need to be thought out in advance, and when improvising, there are hitches. The timbre, tone of voice, and speed of speech change slightly.
In the question of how to determine a lie, mindfulness and the degree of intimacy with a person are important. If a woman knows her interlocutor well, it will be easy for her to guess when he will start lying.
Moreover, the female eye is more sharp-sighted to distinguish untruth: perhaps also because the fair sex has a better developed intuition.
Each person has their own symptoms that indicate a lie. Some people rub their earlobes, others scratch their eyebrows, and others sniff all the time.
The question of how to find out that a man is lying is actually not so important. It is much more important to understand the reason for this behavior and do everything to hear only the truth in the future.
What to do if a man is lying.
Every representative of the fairer sex faced male lies. It is especially offensive when a close person – a father, brother or husband-tells a lie.
Forums are full of topics and queries in the spirit of “what to do if your husband is lying”. Someone advises not to pay attention and not to attach importance, others, in contrast, advise to divorce, because life with a deceiver is impossible.
The truth is somewhere in the middle. If a guy is lying, you can’t turn a blind eye or just yell at him. We need to talk.
Tell me what you know about his lies, ask why he didn’t tell you the truth. Don’t go overboard with the notation.
The man himself knows that he has done wrong. If he resorted to lying, then he saw in his act a way out of the situation.
A guy can believe that he hid the truth with the best of intentions. In this case, you can understand that he is not lying for the sake of evil, and look at the offense from a different angle.
Although lying for good is not as terrible as self – serving deception-even the most unsightly truth is better than any lie.
Over time, the lies come out and become a cause for scandals and resentments. And the truth is something we live with and have to come to terms with.
Convey to the man that you are offended by the very fact of his lies. It’s not so bad that he spent Friday night in the company of friends, as that he did not tell the truth and did not justify your trust.
There are too many reasons why guys lie to list them all. It is important to understand something else: a man will not stop lying to his woman if he is afraid of being judged or misunderstood.
If a man is lying to you, think about it: are you too categorical in communicating with him, do you not suppress his desires and feelings, do you not start a terrible scandal when a man confesses to his “sins”?
If the answer is “yes” – a man can not be blamed for lying. How can he be honest with you if you don’t accept his honesty?
That is why you should not treat a man who lied too harshly. Better try to convince him that lying is not the best way out of any situation, because the secret always becomes clear.