What to talk to a girl about?
Namely, here are the ones that will help you when communicating with a girl: 1 Cinema is a universal theme. We start with the question: “Have you been to the cinema *?” We find out what he likes to watch, whether he goes to night sessions, talk about new products and invite him to the film – it’s in the hat! 2 Hobbies. For example, you rollerblade or collect stamps. In the first case, after a short conversation, you can invite a ride. If he can’t, promise to teach him. In the second – to tell a romantic story related to your favorite brand and invite you to see the collection. In the conversation, do not forget to ask what the girl is interested in, and give time to talk about it. 3 Literature. Does the girl like to read? If so, go ahead. What have you been reading lately? What’s your favorite writer? Tell us what you read yourself. Do you know which book will be screened soon? Have you already read the new book from the series she liked? Promise to let me read it. 4 Museums, memorials. There are plenty of them in any city. You need to pick up a guidebook and remember the information at least about those where you visit most often. Then, at any time, you can strike with your intellect something like this: “Do you know that Pushkin (James Bond, Carlson) lived in this house?” We are interested in the lady’s favorite places, tell a romantic story about her favorite park and invite her to take a walk. 5 Bad habits. It is better to talk about the “cute” shortcomings: the habit of constantly being late, losing pens, or vice versa-imperceptibly collecting them from all your friends. The main thing is to have fun. 6 Money. Talking about the cost of daily travel and food, CDs, books is a good opportunity to start a conversation. However, it is not necessary to delay it, it will still think that you are a miser. After a couple of opinions, move on to another topic. For example, to food. 7 Food. From family dinners with grandma’s pies to favorite dishes, exotic seafood, good cafes, barbecue trips, etc. An invitation to your favorite cafe or out of town on the weekend will be completely logical in this case. 8 Travel, walking. You can tell us about your recent trip. Ask where the girl likes to go, drive, about her favorite weather for walking, where she would like to visit. What do you like more-the forest, the mountains, or diving into the unknown depths of the sea for treasure. 9 Cars, transport. Ask if the girl drives a car. If not, is there a desire? What cars do you like? What other transport would you like to drive – a spaceship or an armored personnel carrier? Share your thoughts about the car of your dreams. 10 Work and study. Tell us a couple of funny situations from your work or training practice. Ask about the relationships in the team: whether there are common holidays, ask about the bosses and teachers. Be sure to find something in common in these stories, there will be something to laugh at. 11 Rest. What do you do on weekends? With any answer to the question, we do not criticize anything, even if the girl does not get up from the sofa all day, eating cakes by the kilos. Maybe her job is terribly stressful, and this is compensation for stress. Your task is to keep the conversation going. 12 Sports. Start carefully-with your favorite sports. If you hear that a girl is engaged in ballet or dancing, do not rush to laugh “in all the crows ‘throats”. Try at home in front of the mirror, standing on tiptoe, lift your legs, sit down, jump and at the same time wave your hands beautifully for a couple of hours in a row. Your torment will have nothing to do with ballet, but you will feel the degree of stress. Famous athletes, gyms, types of swimming, sports tourism-there are many topics. 13 From sports to health. Here is the time to say that it is better to ride bicycles in the fresh air than to smell glue in basements. You can philosophize a little on this topic together. Unless, of course, the girl yawns during your moral lecture. 14 Religion. Do you believe in God, in fate, are interested in Buddhism, the history of religions, do not even believe in chance, etc.? Do not hesitate to ask: does she believe in predestination from above or believes that a person independently creates fate. Do you feel that your meetings are not accidental? Hint at it. It may turn out to be an interesting conversation. 15 Relationships. Here you can ask what kind of guy she would like to meet. What it will not tolerate: infidelity, boredom, greed, etc. In response, express your opinions. Ask about your friends, tell us about your own. Just don’t start scrupulously sorting through your ex-girlfriends. 16 Children. Kids, younger brothers and sisters, nieces and just acquaintances. There will definitely be something to discuss: funny statements, pranks, whims. If your chosen lady is already a mother, the conversation can be endless. You can find out how serious the person in front of you is. 17 Gifts, holidays. What is the most important holiday? What gifts does she like? Give or receive? About yourself-absolutely. For example: you love winter, New Year, Santa Claus and swimming in the ice hole under the tangerine rain in only fins. 18 Clothing. Be sure to compliment her on her beautiful appearance. Make a joke about your favorite jeans. Ask me: how does she feel about the guys working on the catwalk? Hint that a woman in any clothes is beautiful – any real man knows about it. 19 Pets. The topic is a win-win, unless you just ran into an outright psychopath. Does she have a cat, a dog, a rat, a fish, a parrot? Praise me! It is mandatory to tell about your pets. Imagine what your favorite iguana and her guinea pigs would do together. 20 Climax. Sex. You can shock a girl by immediately informing her about your sexual preferences. However, the result will be extremely doubtful. Therefore, wait until your relationship becomes really close. In the meantime, you can talk about famous couples: whether they are really suitable for each other.
And now what you don’t need to talk about:
- Bragging rights.
Some people believe that showing off a new car or big earnings, they will be able to impress others. This is partly true. They will impress the people around them … fools. Smart people will find them empty and uninteresting. When someone consciously tries to elevate themselves-it immediately catches the eye and, as a rule, such efforts cause the opposite effect.
- Too many tips.
All people like to give advice. This is not surprising. When someone tells you about their problems, the first thing that comes to mind is to support, express their point of view, share their experience, but sometimes a person just needs to talk it out. Learn to refrain from making comments in situations where you feel they may be unnecessary. Usually people themselves ask for advice, if they really need it. In this case, try not to overdo it. Too active an adviser from the outside may seem like a self-centered smart guy who is sure that he knows the answers to all the questions. Those who are faced with a real problem, such know-it-alls are annoying.
3 “ ” And I… and I… and I have…”
There are people who can only discuss one topic — their loved ones. They turn any dialogue into a monologue about themselves. It’s annoying. Here are a couple of the most common ways to put on yourself the brand of a disgusting interlocutor: a) Constantly interrupt the interlocutors in mid-sentence with the phrase: “This is what, here I have!”and start telling your story. b) During the dialogue, instead of listening to the other person, just wait for your turn to speak. c) Try to translate any conversation to a topic that interests you and desperately continue to cling to it even after it runs out. d) Talk too much.
Have you decided to discuss with a new acquaintance the disgusting outfit of the lady opposite, the dirty hair of a mutual friend or the latest novel of your neighbor? Then don’t be surprised if this is your last conversation with this person. Gossiping and discussing others is an amateur activity. Of course, such conversations give a sense of superiority over others, but at the same time, they include a lot of negative aspects. They are boring, useless, and leave an unpleasant residue behind. In addition, if you are happy to discuss others, your interlocutor can easily think that if he moves away and you take up with him – this will kill any desire to communicate with you.
- Fear of making a mistake.
One of the main mistakes in conversation is the constant fear of making a mistake. When a person is too focused on giving the impression of a pleasant conversationalist, it immediately catches the eye – he chooses every word, and his thoughts are focused somewhere deep inside, and not on the dialogue itself. You need to be simpler. Think what you say and say what you think.
How to avoid these mistakes? The answer is simple. Focus less on yourself. All of the above problems are rooted in too much attention to your own Self. Don’t let your ego get out of line and enjoy the conversation.