Talk to a girl on the street?
At the end of this article, after reading it in full – you will learn what to say to a girl when meeting. But first, I want you to understand why you don’t know that now. The reason goes much deeper than you think. In addition, you can also read another article about how to meet a girl on the street.
In this case, there are two types of situations: Either you see this girl periodically, well, for example, you run into her at work, she is from a neighboring department, or at the institute, or maybe you just often see her in the subway (I wrote about these places here). And the most annoying thing happens when you even cross eyes, she looks at you, and you can’t approach her, because you just don’t know what to say to her, and how to start a conversation with a girl.
Or maybe you are always being disturbed by someone, then she is with her friends, then she is with colleagues, then she is in a hurry somewhere… It’s a little easier in this situation, because you have a chance to do it tomorrow, if you couldn’t do it today, you’ll see it again.
And here’s another situation for you – when you just walked down the street or in the subway saw a beautiful girl in a dainty dress with long legs and a cute face, but you could not approach her, but just walked and looked back after her. And so, most likely, it happens quite often and regularly in your life.
Let’s try to figure it all out and help you with this issue. What’s stopping you?
Fear of approaching a girl. Look what a joke – if you are now sent to a girl, so that you just go to her for work and sign the documents, then you absolutely do not think you will go and do it. You can talk to her. But if you are told to go up to the same girl and say that you like her, then you will just start to shake, worry and look for excuses. What the hell would you think?
This suggests that the fear of the approach itself does not exist, you are not afraid of this. You’re just afraid that you don’t know what to say, and what if you look stupid, and what if she has a boyfriend, and what if she’s in a hurry, and what if she doesn’t appreciate my appearance…
We need to find the root cause, find the root. And the fact that you do not know where to start a conversation with a girl is already a consequence. It is not the lack of vocabulary or topics of conversation that hinders you, but fear, fear of failure and the so-called internal dialogue.
Just be patient. Read on. First we will understand what is the root of all evil, and then I will give you a couple of useful chips and examples.
And yet, on this topic, I have some great training videos on my YouTube channel, which you can watch right now by clicking here. In these videos, I cover this topic in more detail. I don’t really like to write in a blog, I’m still lazy, it’s easier for me to talk on camera ;). So, it’s better to watch me, not read me.
So, the internal dialogue. Your fear triggers an internal dialogue. You see a beautiful girl, she passes by or sits at a cafe table, at this moment in your head there is a desire to approach her and talk, but you are afraid, and fear is what keeps you in your own comfort zone, fear saves you from stress. And so it starts in your head: “I don’t know what to say to her, I’m in a hurry, she’s in a hurry, she’s wearing headphones, and suddenly there’s a guy, and my shoes are dirty, but she still refuses me.”
And the more you delay before approaching it, the bigger and stronger your inner dialogue becomes. The more excuses you make up for yourself. To cope with it and not think — how to talk to a beautiful girl you should use the rule of U. P. P. Saw. I liked it. He came over. That is, the more you think and hesitate before the approach, the worse, your brain will catch up with panic and you will mumble in front of it.
So far, for you, being around a beautiful stranger is like being in a cage with tigers. You are afraid, and you, or rather your brain thinks only about one thing – “how to get out of here!”, so, of course, what a normal conversation with a girl is talking about. He is not creative at this moment, but is trying to find a reason to run away. She immediately tells you- “I’m not getting acquainted” and your brain immediately whispers to you – ” Get out, Get out of here, she’s not getting acquainted.”
As long as you’re afraid of girls, you won’t know what to say to them! I told you, the root of all this is deeper than you think.
You know, no matter what I tell you here, no matter how many template phrases I give you, you still (If you rarely approach girls) when you approach a girl, you will experience stress and excitement in this regard, and you will completely forget these phrases. Especially if she suddenly says – “I’m not getting acquainted, I have a boyfriend, I don’t give my phone number, I’m in a hurry,” and so on. We have a whole separate topic in our lessons – “Working with girls ‘objections”. There I personally turn into a girl, and the guys supposedly get acquainted with me, but I rigidly merge them, their task is to process all my objections.
But now about something else. To pump up the ability to easily communicate with girls, we will not talk about this. Now let’s get back to what to say to her. To improve the ability to easily communicate with girls, there is an excellent exercise “Throat”. And just on this topic, I have a great video example. You probably, after watching this video, will think – “Here are the idiots”, but this is not so. This is a powerful exercise in overcoming fear and developing the ability to talk to a girl . This exercise has already helped hundreds of my students who came to me for live trainings.
So, here’s the video-watch:
Here are some examples of what to say and what to do.
How to start a conversation with a girl? There are many ways to start a conversation. If you managed to cross eyes before that, then it’s even better, so try to catch this look, but if you didn’t succeed, then it’s also okay. For example, she goes and listens to the player. You should not be afraid (You are not doing anything illegal) to approach her from the side and lightly touch her elbow or shoulder, and after she turns around-you gesture to her to take off her headphones.
Then you naturally say “Hi” to her and smile broadly at the same time. There are several types of so-called Openers, that is, openers, that is, questions or phrases that can be used at the beginning and to start communication.
Let’s start with the Directive-it is the simplest and you do not need to invent anything-Hello….. You look great (or some other compliment)….. (These dots mean a pause, that is, you should make small pauses so that it seems natural and see her reaction to your words), Stop for a minute, I want to talk to you (If it goes. If it is worth it, then just say-I want to talk). But remember that you have to say it very confidently. With very high-quality nonverbal, by the way, read about nonverbal in my other articles.
There are a couple of rules here-Always on “YOU”, not “YOU”, and the second rule – you never say the word “Meet” again, you replace this word with the word “Chat”. Because this word is already like a red rag for a bull. And so you will already start to differ from others. And if a girl tells you that she does not meet, then you will tell her – ” Yes, we do not meet, we just communicate.” In general, this is important, try it yourself and see the changes for the better.
In general, Directive is my favorite bottle opener, because you don’t have to invent anything. But this is one of the ways to start a conversation with a girl.
You can also say to her such a phrase – “You are a very unusual girl”, she will naturally ask- ” What is it?”, this guarantees you that she will catch on, and then you already tell her – what. For example – “You dress very brightly or you have very unusual eyes, especially the right one)))”. A girl can be completely ordinary, your job is just to tell her about it.
There are still ways to start talking to a girl from a distance, so to speak, that is, not directly in the forehead, but for example to ask something. “Hi, and tell me how to get there….”, then she tells you, and you tell her- ” By the way, you look great, you have unusual…..”. You can see her choosing some products in the store, go to her and ask for advice on what you should choose, then just-by the way…. You look great (or any other compliment) and introduce yourself – ” My name is…”.
By the way, here is another important rule – you always say hello and introduce yourself by the hand. No other way. How to talk to a girl on the street – you can ask something, for example, the road, you can just pass by, tell her that she is very unusual… More chips on communication I wrote in the article how to approach a girl.
You can use such a bottle opener as “Charge”. That is, you go behind the girl, catch up with her, overtake her, and after going forward for two meters, you turn around, look into her eyes, smile and say – ” Are you following me?)))))”, and if she reacts well, then slow down and start a conversation. Just a compliment that it is very unusual, then you introduce yourself, but what to say next?
If you ask me what to talk about next, I’ll tell you everything! About anything ! There is no special topic for talking to the girl. But there are a lot of exercises that allow you to pump up your conversation skills with the opposite sex. Read more about the conversation in the following articles!
Now you have learned about how to talk to a girl who likes you and most importantly about what is bothering you. And when you can eliminate the cause, you can easily get rid of the effect. So the first thing you need to do is just to approach the girls as often as possible and carry any nonsense, say anything, the main thing is to get used to the fact that it is not scary to be near them. Take away your fear and you will get rid of the problems of what to say .
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