Signs that you have a toxic personality.
12 signs that you are in a relationship with a toxic person.
Run away from it, wherever you look!
Jenny met Kenneth through the Internet. She was attracted by the manly appearance of the guy, she was happy when she learned that he loves nature, writes Good Therapy.
The first time they met, Kenneth said he didn’t like plastered women. To please her new boyfriend, Jenny stopped wearing makeup-altogether.
Over time, the control on his part only increased. He began to dictate to the girl what to wear, where to go, and who to meet.
Fred liked the fact that Melinda decided to spend all her free time with him. They’d been dating for a few months, they’d gotten used to each other, their passions had already subsided, and Fred wanted to start going out.
He loved playing football and wanted to get into the local team. However, every time he brought up this topic, Melinda was jealous, she threw a scandal at him, accused him of allegedly wanting to cheat on her.
Both of these cases are examples of dysfunctional relationships. To an outsider, this immediately becomes clear. A person who is in such a relationship does not realize that they have a detrimental effect on him.
Here are 6 signs of a dysfunctional relationship. Remember them, so as not to become a victim of the tyrant!
1) Your partner controls your entire life.
Excessive control is the first sign that a relationship is toxic and it’s time to end it before it’s too late.
In the beginning, attempts to control will be timid, but persistent, over time, you will begin to dictate-how to dress, where to go, who to meet, how to spend money, etc.
You will feel as if your home has become a maximum security prison. If you fight back or refuse to make concessions, the partner may resort to verbal threats, and then-to physical violence.
2) Your partner is very jealous.
Unwarranted jealousy on the part of a partner is another sign that you are involved in a toxic relationship. Why are you being jealous? Because of low self-esteem and feelings of inferiority.
Trust is an important part of a healthy relationship. If you have nothing to reproach, if you have never given a reason for jealousy, but your partner still calls you ten times a day, watches you, accuses you of cheating, it’s time to say goodbye to him.
3) He has frequent outbursts of rage.
If the person you are meeting is not able to adequately respond to the situation and control your anger, why do you need such a person? In the future, it will still show itself.
Today he got a hot hand at the cashier in the supermarket, and tomorrow you or your common child. Anger problems can easily escalate, and they only get worse over time.
4) He puts pressure on you, uses blackmail.
If you have a fight, your partner threatens to break up the relationship, leave you, delete your phone number, or even worse-commit suicide? He puts pressure on the psyche and does it intentionally.
Any kind of emotional blackmail is a sign that the relationship is not all right. Here are some phrases you can hear from a person who is trying to manipulate you:
“If you really loved me, you wouldn’t do this….” “If you don’t, I’ll have to…” “It will be very bad for me if you leave” “But remember, it will be on your conscience!” “You are ungrateful, I have done so much for you.”
5) Your partner raises a hand against you or forces you to do something that you absolutely do not like.
Your partner does not react to your refusal in any way and continues to bend his line? He doesn’t understand either the good or the bad?
You may have explained it poorly, but most often the reason is that you are in a relationship with an abuser. You should not give in to his provocations, suffer mockery just because he earns more, etc.
And even more so, you should not stay close to a man who raises his hand against you. If you are involved with such a person in a relationship, you would do well to get advice from a specialist to look at the situation from the outside.
6) Your partner has an addiction.
Alcohol or drug abuse harms any relationship. The main thing in this situation is not to get involved in this together with your partner, not to start feeling sorry for him and try to pull him out of this swamp.
If you notice that your partner is too partial to alcohol or psychoactive substances, talk to him, try to help him, but do not sacrifice your own life and interests for the sake of someone who does not want to change.
7) Friends and family are concerned about your relationship.
Friends and family are bystanders. They are not blinded by love as much as you are, so they can evaluate the situation objectively. It is worth listening to their opinion. But only when their criticism is really constructive.
These people only want the best for you. They will help you open your eyes to your relationship. Sometimes you can see better from the outside. If you have moved away from them, they will feel it immediately.
8) You feel uncomfortable.
If you are not happy with the relationship, there is a chance that you are living with the wrong person. You intuitively feel that your partner is not really close to you. Try to give honest answers to the following questions:
What does this relationship give you? What are you still saving them for? What are the advantages of maintaining this relationship?
Being happy is very important. Life is too short to spend it with someone who poisons your life.
9) You can’t talk openly about problems.
Does your partner not want to hear about the need to change something? It means that nothing bothers him, moreover, he does not care about what disturbs you. While one enjoys it, the other digs into himself and engages in self-flagellation.
This is wrong. Such relationships will not lead to anything good – they will be destroyed by the poison of misunderstanding and the inability to reach the partner. Why keep something that sooner or later falls apart?
10) They are trying to change you.
It’s one thing if you really want something, and quite another if your partner demands these changes from you. Remember: if you are loved, you will be supported in everything.
Are you ready to give up yourself in favor of other people’s interests? Does your partner not recognize the real you? Then you should think about it: is the game worth the candle? Why lose your identity just because someone didn’t like it?
11) It lowers your self-esteem.
A person with low self-esteem is easier to manage and manipulate. It is easy to convince him that he should not claim more, that his main task is to serve the interests of his partner.
A wife with low self-esteem will not cause her husband’s jealousy, considering herself not worthy of male attention, and at the same time will forgive him a lot.
After all, she is sure that she should be grateful to her husband only for the fact that he singled her out among the crowd and married her.
12) Your emotions and feelings are ignored.
The partner (or partner) is not interested in your feelings, opinions, dismissive of your experiences and doubts. He doesn’t try to help, understand, or even just listen to you.
Your partner’s successes do not please, and your failures cause irritation and condemnation. If this happens, think: why do you need a person who is not able to support, comfort, guide, give advice?
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