13 signs of butterflies in the stomach.
Love is the meaning of human life, love is the most beautiful feeling in the world… At least, that’s what they say on TV, because in the modern world, love is also a reliable way to sell something. But how do you know if you fell in love, got poisoned, or maybe accidentally drank the wrong pills?
13 signs of falling in love: I’m not a drug addict, I’m a romantic! 13.
Okay, now seriously. Look, what a thing: around love really screwed up a lot of things. Everyone says that this is something incredible and amazing. Love has become synonymous with happiness.
That’s why sometimes it’s hard to understand how you feel. Often people do not experience such strong, vivid, dramatic emotions as in the movies. It happens that love is just a desire to be close and a feeling of warmth next to a person, and not any kisses against the background of the sunset and the sinking of the Titanic.
The second reason: you can deny your feelings. Why? For example, you may be afraid of rejection. Or subconsciously consider love, attachment to someone as a weakness, and to be weak, to be vulnerable is scary.
The third reason: men are not taught to understand their emotions at all. Girls from childhood are taught to understand the subtleties of human relations, to be sensitive and attentive. And the boys, meanwhile, are told “don’t cry, you’re a man!” That is, they are forbidden to cry, they are forbidden to feel! Well, how are you supposed to understand your feelings after that?
Well, get behind the wheel of the mental excavator, let’s start digging into ourselves.
The most obvious sign: euphoria. Yesterday everything was infuriating, but now the whole world seems beautiful and amazing, and even the unshaven janitor looks friendlier… Okay, if no jokes, euphoria can be expressed much more gently. The bottom line is one thing: unreasonably good mood, lightness and a desire to see the good in everything. And even other people, especially close ones, notice that you are all lit up, smile more often, and are more in a happy mood. Loved ones are often more sensitive and attentive to people than they are. So if your mom smiles knowingly at something you don’t understand, and your dad says, “Did you forget the condoms?”, maybe they just figured it out before you did. You care about your appearance. Perhaps you have become more careful to shave, more deliberate approach to the choice of clothing? Did you want to buy a new perfume or did you finally sign up for the gym? If you’re lucky and your crush has fallen in love with you, she’s doing the same thing now: you both want to impress each other. You think about her a lot. Not necessarily around the clock, but several times a day, thoughts steadily return to it. Where is she? What does it do? Would she like this movie? When will I see you next?” But the last time I met her, she said she was reading Bradbury, and she should read it too… even if you were busy or in good company. Everything reminds you of her. When you see someone walking with a Labrador, you remember that she wants a dog of this breed. You pass by the bakery-you remember that it constantly loses weight and suffers without your favorite poppy buns. You can imagine the smell of her perfume, she can see herself in the crowd, all the girls with her hair color now make your heart skip a beat: what if she?! In fact, this is quite normal: that’s how the human brain works. You’re interested in everything that interests her. You’ve hated seafood all your life, but she loves it, and now you find yourself wanting to eat some miracle yudo. All my life I’ve watched mostly movie comics, but she mentioned some clever director, and now you’re really trying to get into the specifics of the Norwegian art house (hero!). Maybe after talking to her, you’ll even think about your views on politics or religion. Watch yourself, such things can happen unnoticed, because you do not think “well, I’ll try for her sake” — you are really interested. Why? Because all this is now associated with the person who is important to you. And, perhaps, with a loved one. Let’s say something very good happened to you. I closed the session, successfully defended the project, got a promotion at work, and bought good headphones. Who do you want to share your joy with first? Previously, it could be parents, if you have a good relationship with them, a best friend, a brother… And now it’s her. You’re genuinely concerned about her problems. You sincerely want to understand why she is in a bad mood or pleased with how her day went. You care about it, you want to cheer her up, you want to help her, you are willing to get involved in her problems and, perhaps, take them as your own. To meet her, you’re willing to change your plans, get up early even though you’ve been an owl all your life, sacrifice a weekend to help her, and all this is completely selfless simply because you like spending time with her and want to help her. You want to introduce her to people close to you. For example, with a group of friends, with parents, with any person whose opinion is important to you. You care if they like each other. Why? Because subconsciously you already understand that this girl is important to you, that she is with you for a long time. Now you are unconsciously trying to connect the important parts of your life so that you don’t lose anything. After all, this is one of the most global conflicts in a relationship — when you have to choose between a girl and friends or, Cthulhu forbid, a girl and parents. However, you may not be aware of this desire, but believe me: this is the thirtieth time you’ve asked your mom if she likes a blonde about 170 centimeters tall as a physics teacher, for a reason. You want to talk about her. Not around the clock, of course, but this desire periodically arises. For example, you are discussing with your friends how you want to spend your next vacation, and you remember “By the way, [User-name] was in Portugal last summer, maybe there?”. Colleagues discuss which cafe to go to after work, and you remember that she likes that sushi bar over there. Mom tells you that she wants to have a cat, and you remember what she told you about the peculiarities of sphinxes. Why is this happening? Because you subconsciously, or even very consciously, constantly think about it, it fills your mind, and therefore your conversations. You’re thinking about the future with her. No, this does not mean the desire to urgently get married and have children. Rather, you can, for example, see the trailer for a movie that will be released in a year, and think that you would like to go there with her, you can think about what to give her for her birthday and whether she wants to celebrate the New Year with your family. Although if you really think about children and weddings, why did you even open this article? Run for the rings! You are afraid. You see, when a man meets a girl who he may like, but in general he does not have deep feelings for her — he does not care. He does not think that he can offend her with a careless word or lose her altogether, does not think about whether she will like his family, does not worry about her assessment of his appearance. But if a person is really in love — all this happens. Because you care about her. Because it’s important to you.
Love is not necessarily passionate kisses in the rain on the background of the end credits. Sometimes it’s the warmth and joy of having a girl with you. Concern about her problems, interest in her opinion. But cinematic-passionate or calmer — these feelings can really bring happiness. Not like in the movies, but real.