It would seem that how can two close people who have become one family not get along? But, unfortunately, this is a common phenomenon. For example, in the 10th issue of the project “Ultimatum” just came a family that has such a problem. There are many reasons, but a few simple tips will help you avoid such a situation, as well as to improve relations in the family. Read in the article.
Often the wife herself becomes the cause of the quarrels that have arisen between the mother and the husband . In order for you not to cause conflicts yourself, pay attention to the following points::
Do not complain to your husband about your mother, because you yourself give rise to a negative perception of the person close to you. The previous paragraph also applies in reverse order. If you tell your mother about the shortcomings of a loved one, your quarrels and dissatisfactions, most likely, the mother-in-law will begin to treat her son-in-law in a negative way. Do not threaten your husband that you will leave him for your parents. Sometimes, in a fit of anger, this is exactly what happens. Even on a subconscious level, the mother-in-law becomes a threat to your spouse. Do not force your loved one to call your mother-in-law mom. Let the people close to you communicate in a way that is convenient and comfortable for them. Stay calm in conflicts. If there are disagreements between the mother-in-law and the son-in-law, do not choose one side and do not rekindle the conflict with a new force.
The reason may lie in the attitude of the son-in-law to the mother-in-law. It happens that the mother-in-law becomes an enemy even before dating, because it is “accepted” that these people are not friends. Do not forget that you love one person and your mutual understanding is very important. In communicating with your wife’s mother, you should follow simple rules:
Treat your mother-in-law with respect and be open. Do not try to distance yourself from communication with your spouse’s mother, find common ground, common interests and topics for conversation. Show that you care about her daughter. Naturally, the mother is worried about the fate of her child and wants only the best. Demonstrate that you love your wife, are ready to protect and do everything to make her happy. Do not complain about your mother-in-law to your spouse and do not criticize her actions. Remember that this is the closest person to your soulmate, and also that all decisions that concern your family, you and your spouse must make independently (without the help and complaints of parents). Do not interfere in the relationship of the wife and her mother. Their communication lasts from the very birth of your beloved, and they can figure everything out on their own, do not interfere, because you can not only spoil the relationship between you, but also become the culprit of new conflicts.
If the mother-in-law and son-in-law treat each other with respect and make compromises, peace and harmony will reign in their communication!